Are you happy?
we r all searching for happiness.
in achieving this happiness our attitude in life plays a crucial role.
after years of hard & dedicated service to his company, ajay was being appointed at an elegant reception as the new director.
it was a small function where his wife anita , a home executive & some of the wives of the other persons in top management were also present.
in an adjacent room, ann, the wife of the ceo of the company, asked ajay's wife a very odd & usual question;
"does ur husband make u happy?"
the husband, ajay, who at that moment was not at her side, but was sufficiently near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation, sitting up slightly, feeling secure, even filling his chest lightly in pride & hope, would definitely not publically lower or degrade her husband, would answer affirmatively, since she had always been there for him during their marriage and generally in life.
nevertheless, to both his & the others' surprise, she replied simply;
"no, no he doesn't make me happy…"
the room became uncomfortably silent, as if everyone were listening to the spouse's response.
there was a sudden coldness in the air.
the husband was petrified.
a frown appeared on his face.
he couldn't believe what his wife was saying, especially at such an important occasion for him.
to the amazement of her husband & of everyone!
anita sat up firmly & explained in a modest but stern tone to the other wives who were present;
"no, he doesn't make me happy… i am happy. the fact that i am happy or not doesn't depend on him, but on me.
god has granted each of us intellect & discretion to reason, interpret & decide.
god made me the person upon which my happiness depends.
i make the choice to be happy in each situation & in each moment of my life.
if my happiness were to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of this earth, i would be in serious trouble!
over my life i have learned a couple of things:
i decide to be happy & the rest is a matter of 'experiences or circumstances' like helping, understanding, accepting, listening, consoling & with my spouse, i have lived & practiced this many times.
honestly true happiness lies in being content"
relieved & reassured, a smile was clearly noticed on ajay's face.
moral:
happiness will always be found in contentment, forgiveness & in loving yourself & others.
to truly love is difficult, it is to forgive unconditionally, to live, to take the "experiences or circumstances" as they are, facing them together & being happy with conviction.
there are those who say i cannot be happy :
· because i am sick.
· because i have no money.
· because it's too cold.
· because they insulted me.
· because someone stopped loving me.
· because someone didn't appreciate me.
but what u don't know is that u can be happy even though u r sick, whether it is too hot, whether u have money or not, whether someone has insulted u, or someone didn't love u, or hasn't valued u.
being happy is an attitude about life & each one of us must decide!
being happy, depends on u !